The Woman" of today's generation has ‘Changed’! She has her own Individuality & its high time for her Man to Accept it !!! Today, we have so many Divas (Beautiful & Successful Women) in our society. Power dressing, Firm handshakes & Big Pay Packets, are not ‘Only’, a Man’s Domain, anymore. Some Men feel ‘Over-Shadowed’ by their partner’s success?They view their woman’s success, as a threat? They feel Insecure, just because their partner is not fully dependant on them? Why? I have seen many families break, due to this cold war between the husband & wife.
This is the story of a cousin of mine, who was my childhood buddy. After school days, we shifted to different colleges & houses & places & till just recently, just 3 years back, I happened to meet her at a Seminar. I could not believe my eyes, my timid shy cousin, on the stage, in a swanky orange suit, looking totally elegant & stunning & answering intellectual questions from the participants in such a confident voice. I was zapped & excited & could not wait for the coffee break to meet her. When finally we met, we were making so much of noise, that the entire horde of participants & panel members were looking at us !!, U know, as if they were all seeing a movie, where the twin sisters were separated at Birth & Re-United at Youth !! hehe!!.
After that, we met up one weekend & went to Café Coffee & divulged in our college to marriage stories. She told me that she was a G.Mgr with a MNC, earning a 6-digit package. Her face was so cute & kid-like, but she carried herself so well, she sure was an Eye-Catcher. I was sure, she was one lucky Gal !! She told me, she used to travel a lot on tours by her Company, to attend conferences etc.. At the end, I said “WOW ! Shruti, U R one Lucky Chick !!!”. She looked at me with a sudden sadness in her eyes & said “Cattie Darling, don’t judge a book by its cover.”
Then we parted & I went back with that ‘Curious as a Cat’, mood. I wondered, what could she possible not have? Luckily after a few weeks, she called me, inviting me to stay over at her place, as her hubby was going on a Conference Tour. We were jumping with joy, like two school kids & had such fun in the kitchen trying some fun snacks & mocktails. After dinner, we got chatting on the bed. I saw the prominent snap of she & her handsome hubby, on her bedroom table. She told me that he was a Hi-Fi Professional & how they met at a party & married. Then I decided to let out my Curious Catty question……so I asked her “Shruti, why do you still say, that U are not Lucky?. You’ve got everything in life, that a girl wants?”. She looked at me with a distraught face & just burst into tears!!! I was taken aback, & immediately hugged her close & soothed her. Then she slowly opened up & told me, why she was in pain & I was Aghast with what her story!!.
Yes ! My Sweet Friend was a Diva! A Successful, Popular & Admired Woman. She had the Looks, the Money, the Success, the Family, everything in her lap….except that she was not happy with her hubby…& they were on the verge of Divorce !!!! The Reason, you ask me?? Go back to the top of this write-up & read the Heading. “Are You Man Enough to handle a Diva?”.
So what, if the woman is more popular, successful or earns more money than her man? Is that a reason to take it as a Threat to their Egos & get Jealous & Fight with her and Intimidate her ? Many woman today, have to constantly downplay their success to please their Man,Why?? Can’t the man view his partner’s Success with Pride & be happy that it helps in sharing the burden of running a family ?
If the man is not able to accept his partner’s success & popularity, then let her be a house-wife & cook & clean like in the olden days…But No !!, the Cost of Living is going up & he can’t foot the bills alone. So is the woman supposed to go to work, put her head down & do back office jobs, don’t go on tours, don’t have friends, don’t socialize...Don’t do This & Don’t Do That ???
A woman is warm & loving & caring & hence she tends to be more Sociable & Bonds better with people. If she has guys as her Best Friends, how can He consider it as Flirting or having an Affair ?? Isn’t it a shame for a man to brawl at his wife, just to ‘Put her Down’? Why not, he look at his woman’s success, as a stepping stone, to make Home & Family life, more Comfortable & Enjoyable??
Shruti is sad & lonely, even though she has the Best. She loves her job, her friends, her family. She does her duties as a Wife, a Daughter-in-law & also successfully handles her job. She is beautiful in her Looks & in her Heart & that has got her tons of friends cum fans.
Is it her fault, if she became more Successful & Popular than her Man??
The Key to a Healthy Relationship is that both, the Man & the Woman, Support & Encourage each other rather than Compete & be Jealous of each other.
A Man needs to be confident in his ‘Masculinity’ & feel good about his Woman’s Popularity. It is important to treat your partner as An Equal & Understand & Support each other’s needs as Individuals.